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Sunday, 26 April 2015

How to stop Comparing Yourself?

One of the hardest things to do, I find, is to stop comparing ourselves with others. Whether it be their appearance, their body, their success, their relationships, their grades, their instagram dinner... it just comes naturally. With everything we do, everyone we meet, we often compare it automatically to someone else/'s. Its tough. I'm not sure if it's because we're so surrounded by social media today documenting our lives and reading about other peoples that we compare so easily to other peoples, but I know it's one thing I struggle with greatly even when I know there's no good to come of it.

So I've been trying to find ways to stop comparing myself and making myself feel bad and trying to see things for the better and there are a few ways I've come up with;

1. Try and remember that what people post online is usually made to look better than it is.

I know I'm a culprit of picking the best out of about a million photos to post on instagram or even here on my blog. There are many photos I've taken which I wouldn't in a million years people to see (not that anyone really cares how disgusting I look when snapchatting ugly selfies to my best friend). I'm sure most other people feel the same. They get the best angle and the right lighting to pose for these pictures we think make them look amazing when no shadow of a doubt, they have their lazy-no shower-pyjama-no makeup days too. 

2. Unfollow the inspo accounts / cut down on the social media

A tough part of making a change is letting go and moving on. A part I'm still coming to terms with. But, small a step it may be, choosing to unfollow these accounts or even just using social media less, means I don't look/read about the things I don't have. And not looking at them doesn't remind me to compare myself to them. Sometimes a few is good, as I guess they do give you some sort of inspiration, but sometimes it can get unhealthy and just cause you to develop self-loathe, which is never good!  

3. Think of things that you like about yourself, that maybe other people wish they had.

Now I'm not talking water and shelter, although it's still a very valid point (because they just make me feel guilty for feeling bad, when everyone should be allowed to feel bad every now and then). I'm thinking of just little things like achievements you've been proud of or friends you really love, just things that you maybe wouldn't have/have done if you did in fact have the life of 'so and so'. They don't have to be big things, just acknowledge the fact that even though you'd 'give anything to have Katie's legs', Katie might 'give anything to have your hair' for example.

4. Use these people or achievements as motivation not a reason your life is any less worthy.

Another implication of comparing ourselves and our lives is that sometimes we get so used to it that we automatically think that we can't be like that. Sometimes it takes a moment to remind ourselves that just because 'Chloe got an A doesn't mean that I can't get an A too'. Or that just because one person is successful doesn't mean that we can't be just as successful. This one's difficult because sometimes it's easier and less effort to just dwell on our misfortune than to work harder and be better, but it's worth trying. Use that person or their achievement as a role model and see it as your future self that you can work towards. 

5. Accept yourself as you are.

Again, probably the most obvious, and for me the most difficult. But when I'm in those occasional moods where I love myself and am really happy, nothing anyone else does or has phases me one bit. That's just difficult to carry on all the time. I'm afraid I have no easy answer to this because it's something that I still haven't mastered, but hopefully some day I will and I'll be sure to share it with you every step of the way.

But for now, I'll say that it's ok not to be on top form every day. It's ok not to be happy all the time. It's perfectly normal to want to sit in your room all day and watch TV and eat chocolate. Or to get a question wrong in class or a bad mark on an exam. It's not the end of the world if you don't go out tonight... or do go out tonight. As long as it's what you want to do. 

You're still beautiful whether you've got perfectly clear skin, or spots on your nose, a muscley toned tummy or 3 chins (maybe even a fourth that shows up in your selfies), dimples when you smile or the laugh of a retarded seal - I think you're beautiful and somebody else does too(even if you don't think so). 

Sunday, 19 April 2015

Sur le pont d'Avignon!

Another fashion post: (Last France post I promise)

Now if you go to Avignon you of course have to go 'le pont' (the bridge that I have a good 50 photos of now!) and indeed we did. 

History lesson: Pont Saint-Bénézet is the bridge that spans the Rhone river but was partly destroyed during the Albegensian Crusade. I believe it was partly rebuilt but was knocked down by the forces of the river.(I'm afraid that's about all I remembered from the tour, not one with the history me, but I did think it was a pretty good view so out came the cameras!)

at Le Palais des Papes

Hat: ASOS (Similar)
Leather jacket: H&M
Black bodysuit: ASOS
Girlfriend jeans: Bershka
Bag: Longchamp
Shoes: Converse


Thursday, 16 April 2015

Food from France!

There's only so long I can go before posting something about food... obviously!

And of course, after being in France last week, I needed to share with you the scrumptious findings from Avignon and my recommendations!

Most of the breakfasts were pretty similar with croissant, juice and hot drink deals but this was the lovely one we got consisting of a lovely refreshing orange juice, a scrumptious hot chocolate and deliciously tasty croissant!

I love the pastel coloured mugs!

This little place was lovely! Called 'Restaurant la Provende' it was a tiny little restaurant-cafe run by a lovely guy and the food was really good actually! I love finding little local places that are a bit more personal and this was definitely that. It was very French and the guy was really nice... and of course the food was pretty good too! I went for the vegetable pie which came with salad with prawns asparagus (and I'm assuming French dressing). 

Of course, I couldn't possibly visit France without purchasing a delightfully chocolatey, nutella-filled, cooked to perfection crepe!   

Just a passing by of yet another patisserie!

We did also go for a delightful ice cream! Down the main street there are a load of creperies and ice cream stalls ready and waiting... however due to the delightful change to England weather that was the incredibly hot sunshine in Avignon meant I had to quickly slurp up my fantastic chocolate ice cream before it melted!

We also went to another restaurant on our last night called; La Vache a Carreux  (which I've linked however I don't think the website and branding reflects the restaurant as the cartoons and background seem very kid-friendly and targeted, which kind of put me off when we saw it but when we saw inside the restaurant it looked, and was, really cosy but in a way chic and sophisticated). It was, I think, all our favourite place - very nice and French! - because it was a nice little atmosphere with really lovely staff who even humoured our terrible French (and didn't just reply in English!). 

They had their menus on cool blackboards and it was all made of brick and was candle lit and really nice! The food was also absolutely amazing! I wanted to post my picture but due to the darkness it didn't come out that great, but I went for the roasted duck with mushroom sauce and mashed potato! Can I just say, it was indescribable! Honestly, my plate was spotless by the end of it, really really nice and fall-off-the-bone meat with smooth tasty mash and the sauce was lovely and creamy! I more and recommend visiting this place if you're ever in Avignon! I did have to try the other pickings by the rest of the fam and they were all pretty scrummy too! It was quite a cheese-heavy restaurant - hence the Vache/Cow part of the name - (they had old posters of Laughing Cow which I did find pretty cool) but I'm not a massive fan of fancy cheeses, so went for the non-cheese option.

Anyone been to Avignon and recognise these places?

Or been to France at all and have any recommendations? 
I've actually really missed practising my appalling French and exploring the cute little places in the delightful sunshine and I'm thinking of applying to do a language course for a week where you go and live with a host family and get totally immersed in the lifestyle. I feel knowing a language is a really valuable skill and I've always enjoyed learning and speaking it. 

Has anyone ever done one of these recently and have any tips or sites to go through?


Sunday, 12 April 2015

Upon the streets of Avignon...

Sadly Easter has come to it's ending but we did manage to get a lovely sneaky trip to Avignon in the South of France last week and took a good bunch of fabby photos, so I might have to spread them out over a few posts to not make it too long and dreary for you all. Anywho... 

Hat: Asos (Similar)
Top: Zara basics
Skirt: H&M skater skirt (Similar)
Bag: Longchamp (Similar)
Shoes: Converse
Sunglasses: Ray ban

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